Those of us who are “givers” put everyone else first. In our mind, the demands of friendships, relationships, family and responsibilities seem more important than our own needs. It’s okay to take care of others, but here are ten things you’ll notice once you learn to truly love and care for yourself too.
1. You won’t need outside validation. It’s always nice to hear someone else comment on your success, give you some extra comfort or even tell you that you look good. But once you’ve mastered self-love, you’ll be capable of giving yourself the props you need, and the rest is just an added bonus.
2. Lazy days will feel less overwhelming. When you rely on love and acceptance from others, canceled plans or a day without a plan can be uncomfortable. But once you realize that relationships are meant to enhance your worth and not define it, you’ll learn to enjoy the chance to unwind, relax, and reflect on your own.
3. You’ll be able to trust your decisions. When you are confident in yourself you’ll be able to use your past experiences to make hard decisions. Instead of feeling stuck or unsure, you can feel good about your choices and move forward.
4. Your standards for how you should be treated will be higher. When we don’t think very highly of ourselves it sets a low threshold for acceptable behavior. Once you know how amazing you are, you’ll have a much better sense of what you need from others.
5. Other people will be drawn to you. People feed off positive energy, and the new you will be exploding with it. You’ll notice social connections popping up without even trying, and it’s going to feel amazing.
6. Your existing relationships will get stronger. It’s incredible how much more you can give and receive from the people in your life once you’re in touch with your own self-love. Being authentic with others will improve your life both personally and professionally.
7. Disappointments will get easier to stomach. Picking yourself up after a wrong step can feel impossible when you are your own worst critic. Once you’re able to accept your mistakes and learn from them, every door that closes will open another.
8. Love will be easier to give. It sounds cliche, but learning to love yourself makes you infinitely better at loving others.
9. The future won’t be so scary. No one knows exactly what will happen, but when you’re content with who you are, you are unstoppable. And when you do hit a rough patch, you’ll know that success is just around the corner if you just keep going.
10. You can help others love themselves too. Once you learn to put yourself first you can help others do the same. It doesn’t mean you are selfish and it doesn’t mean you can’t be there for the people in your life. But if we all gave ourselves a bit of the love we give to others the world would be a better place.
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